Add the pork pieces back into the onion mixture and coat well.
Serve with your favorite salsa, grated cheese and sour cream. Enjoy!
Add the pork pieces back into the onion mixture and coat well.
Serve with your favorite salsa, grated cheese and sour cream. Enjoy!
Though Emily Post’s advice in the 1920’s was addressed to a different era, the fundamentals like common sense and common courtesy are elements still pertinent today. With our busy schedules today it takes a lot of work, just as much now as back then, to make a dinner party or weekend a success. The key is in the planning and preparation. You do not want to appear or feel stressed out. With the proper planning and preparation everyone will have a good time including yourself. In order for your guests to have a good time, you need to also.
Emily Post addressed several classifications; mealtime parties, weekend visits, uninvited guests, single women, lingering guests, liquor problems and unexpected gifts. While some of her information is a bit dated, the basics are still the same.
Mealtime Parties ~ Be ready* ahead of time, don’t plan on anyone being late. *Ready means not answering the door in your cleaning clothes with the dust cloth in hand, having the table set as well as the appetizers and cocktails ready to be served at the invitation time.
If this is a larger occasion with assigned seating, be sure to seat guests next to others that they will have things in common. Be especially aware if you have invited children how their placement will affect the mood of the affair.
If you have invited everyone for a backyard BBQ, don’t wear formal wear and diamonds! You want to put your guests at ease. While events today tend to be more casual, your job as hostess is still to put your guests at ease.
Make sure you mingle with all your guests and not keep yourself secluded in the kitchen.
Keep an eye on your guests refreshments. Make sure to offer more as necessary so they don’t feel awkward asking.
Weekend Visits ~ Communication is the key to a good weekend visit. Be sure to cover all your bases in the invitation. Let your guests know if they need their swimming suits or more formal dress for a special night. Let them know what equipment you have on hand if you’re planning on a day of tennis or golfing, etc…
When your guests first arrive be sure to give them a tour including where their room, the bathroom, towels and such are located. I like to also keep a small basket of essential toiletries (small sample shampoos, soaps, a toothbrush and traveling toothpaste) hung in the guest room. I also make sure there are always empty drawers and plenty of “real” hangers hanging in the closet. By real I mean hangers that are not the throw aways from the cleaners that won’t support a suit coat.
I also like to place fresh flowers in their room before they arrive. This isn’t sometimes possible in the winter and so I have a bright and cheery silk arrangement in there also.
If something is off limits be sure to say so up front. Maybe you have told them to make themselves at home and help themselves to whatever they like. You have a special dessert planned though that will use the fresh strawberries. They will not know to not eat the strawberries unless you have said so up front.
Share your plans by giving your guests a basic time line regarding what time you’ll be serving breakfast or leaving for the lake, etc…
If your guests are family or really good friends, don’t be afraid to ask for help when necessary. This will also make them feel more relaxed and promote a more relaxed atmosphere for the weekend.
You do have several choices when they arrive at mealtime. If the meal will stretch to include additional portions invite them to stay if you would like. If it will not, feel free to explain to them that you were just about to eat and would they mind stopping by later. If you are on your way out to an appointment or another dinner engagement it is okay to let them know that if they would call first next time they are in the neighborhood you would be sure to be available to see them. All of this is at your discretion based on your relationship with the guests. You naturally always allow more leeway with family and close friends, but it is still your choice.
Single Women ~ In today’s world, this is not the problem it once was. Nowadays this pertains primarily to older women who may not want to arrive or depart by themselves. An attentive hostess will foresee this and ask someone near her if they would mind picking her up and bring her with them and then seeing her home also.
Liquor Problems ~ This is pretty much the same today as it was then. As the host you are responsible for seeing that a drunken guest gets home safely. Their car keys should be taken away and discretion used based on each situation.
Unexpected (FOOD such as wine or cakes) Gifts ~ While it is thoughtful, it does not require a priority if it is unexpected. If you have already purchased a wine that coordinates with your menu or prepared a dessert for the meal yours should take precedence. Be sure to thank the donor and tell them how much you will enjoy their gift.
“What are the little things you do to make your guests feel at home?”
POTATO FRITTATA
1 pound Yukon golds, scrubbed and thinly sliced
2 large carrots, thinly sliced
1/2 cup green onions, thinly sliced
2 tablespoons butter
1 tablespoons olive oil
6 eggs, lightly beaten
1 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon white pepper
1 clove garlic, minced
3/4 cup grated cheese
1/2 cup halved cherry tomatoes
1 cup snap peas
SLOW COOKER BLACK BEAN CHILI
1 pound chuck steak, cut into 3/4 inch chunks**
15 ounce can tomato puree
15 ounce can black beans, drained and rinsed
2 cloves garlic, minced
3 tablespoons chili powder
1 KNORR beef tub
2 cups hot water
medium red onion, chopped (reserve some for garnish)
1 bunch green onions, sliced (reserve some for garnish)
sour cream
grated cheese
**We had grilled rib eyes the night before and I got a great price on buying the family pack so we grilled them all and then I cut the remains into 3/4 inch chunks for the chili. I have to say the charring added some great flavor.
LEMON DOODLES
2 1/2 cups flour
1 1/2 cups sugar
3/4 cup flaked coconut
1 cup LAND O LAKES butter, softened
2 eggs
1 1/2 teaspoons cream of tartar
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon grated lemon peel
*1 tablespoon lemon emulsion
*cinnamon sugar
No matter who you are rooting for we’ll have fun. I know not everyone enjoys football, but who can resist a good football food buffet? It’s time to start thinking about tailgating treats, appetizers, chips and dips, wings, and all the other yummy party things!
This is what we’re having tonight, Mozzarella Bites and you can find the recipe here. This time I cut the wonton wrappers and string cheese into 4 pieces each to make bite size pieces.
| DATE | BREAKFAST | LUNCH | DINNER | |
| MONDAY | 9/16 | YOGURT | SANDWICHES | GREEN BEAN CHICKEN CASSEROLE |
| TUESDAY | 9/17 | TOAST | C.O.R.N. | CHICKEN STEAKS w/ TOMATO BREAD PUDDING |
| WEDNESDAY | 9/18 | YOGURT | SOUP | CAJUN CHICKEN PASTA |
| THURSDAY | 9/19 | FRUIT | CHEESE & FRUIT | DULCE CORN ARROZ con POLLO aka CHICKEN & RICE WITH SWEET CORN |
| FRIDAY | 9/20 | CEREAL | SALAD | C.O.R.N |
| SATURDAY | 9/21 | CARAMELIZED BACON and ONION FRITTATA | GRILLED APPLE CHEESE | SPINACH & GARLIC SOUP w/ BACON CRISPS |
| SUNDAY | 9/22 | SHIRRED EGGS | OVEN OMELETS | CHICKEN STEAKS w/ LEMON PARMESAN SAUCE |
Three years ago I gave myself a birthday present and decided to make all my yearly appointments that I’d neglected the previous year while dealing with my in-laws. I was dealing with a new city, new insurance region, new doctors. As with any insurance these days, I needed referrals to specialists.
When I received the first referral in the mail, I called to make my appointment. The receptionist was quite pleasant, but I was quite taken aback when she asked what my cancer diagnosis was. I said I didn’t have one and she said I’m sorry we can’t see you then, but that’s good news. I called my doctor back and asked for a new referral. In all, I was seeking 3 referrals for 3 separate problems. The next week I received the referral for problem number two and was met with a similar conversation with another receptionist. Once again I called my doctor’s office back and started over on the referral process. Next came the third referral for another doctor at the same facility. I was met once again with the same conclusions, “sorry we can’t accept you because you have no cancer diagnosis”. All of these referrals were to MD Anderson.
My doctor’s office never did get any of the referrals handled with the insurance company. I called the insurance company myself and found that I didn’t even need a referral for my well woman exam in this region and they gave me the information for the UTMB women’s clinic. It was here that I was finally seen and originally diagnosed. It was here that a humble doctor said he wasn’t comfortable dealing with this and asked where I’d like to be referred. I know and believe that all of these “misdirected” referrals were so that MD Anderson would be on the tip of my tongue. When the doctor said the tumor was the size of large grapefruit I was distressed. When he told me he was uncomfortable removing a tumor that size and wanted to refer me somewhere else, I said MD Anderson.
Spillage (yep, that’s a technical term) of tumor cells influences the incidence of local recurrence. Spillage of tumor cells, has a negative effect on survival rates. When the diagnosing doctor used the term “spillage” I thought he was making it up. Then I looked it up. Spillage is basically what happens when a tumor tears, rips or ruptures.
980 days ago, I was diagnosed with the “silent killer”, Ovarian Cancer. Ovarian cancer, if detected early is 90 percent curable. But very few cases are discovered in the earliest stage. Then, there are miracles, while not many, and I am blessed to be one. Keep in mind I also believe one of the things that saved my life was a very progressive rhuematologist that helped learn to live without chemical drugs 28 years ago by convincing me to eat a healthy diet free of preservatives, altered sugars, etc… As she said if it’s blue and not a blueberry, don’t eat it and the same goes for orange. Damn, there went the cheetos. The oncologist is convinced that the cancer had nothing in my body to thrive on because I eat healthy, fresh home prepared foods without hormones and preservatives.
When my surgeon, Dr. Diane Bodurka (a wonderful lady, doctor, surgeon, oncologist – there’s a good reason she’s head of the department) said that she believed she got the tumor out intact without spillage, I felt relieved. When she told me it was actually the size of a volleyball, had torsioned itself around everything, but not adhered to any major organs, I felt blessed. 947 days later – in the throes of REMISSION and alive to live another birthday I feel twice blessed.
When I was first diagnosed, they limited ALL my activity including driving in an effort to prevent rupturing the tumor. Ironically the year prior had been full of strenuous activity, moving boxes and furniture – once again proving that my guardian angel was looking out for me. The only symptom I ever had, I didn’t even know I was having because it mimicked a chronic appendix of some 35+ years.
Ovarian cancer is often called the “silent” killer because many times there are no symptoms until the disease has progressed and it’s too late. Most die within five years of their diagnosis — because by the time doctors find the disease, it has already spread. Early symptoms of ovarian cancer are often mild, making this disease difficult to detect. Sadly, a lack of symptoms from this disease means that about 75% of ovarian cancer cases will have spread to the abdomen by the time they are detected and, unfortunately, most patients die within five years.
New methods for early screening of ovarian cancer are being investigated including ultrasound in conjunction with a blood test. The blood test may detect a cancer protein called CA 125, which is sometimes detected in the blood of women with ovarian cancer. This is the test that would have probably saved Gilda Radner’s life.
These tests are useful in evaluating tumor growth, however neither of them has been proven as a reliable way to screen for ovarian cancer. In my own case, the blood work was within normal range while there was a volleyball sized tumor inside me. Quite possibly they were within range because the tumor was still intact, having NOT spread, but no one knows for sure so be vigilant!!!
Ultrasound can detect changes, but it does not give enough information alone to diagnose ovarian cancer. The CA 125 blood test can return positive results when no cancer is present due to other conditions a woman may experience including fibroid tumors, endometriosis, pelvic infection, pregnancy, or other non-gynecological problems.
The treatment for ovarian cancer varies according to a number of factors. For most women, the first treatment is also a diagnostic procedure which involves surgery to determine the extent to which the disease has spread. As a result of surgery, the cancer will be staged.
Stages range from I to IV, with I being the earliest and IV being the most advanced stage. Treatment of ovarian cancer is based on the stage and grade of the disease. A pathologist will determine the grade (how likely it is to spread) of the malignancy.
Many times ovarian cancer and breast cancer are linked. Because of my family history with breast cancer (which is what I was always afraid of getting) I also had the genetic BRCA 1&2 tests done this year. I would have cut off my breasts had they been positive. Once again fortune smiled down on me. The results were negative. I guess one cancer was enough!
Are You at Risk?
Remember, the best way to detect ovarian cancer is by regular examinations.
If symptoms are present, they may include:
Ovarian Cancer Fact 1. Ovarian cancer is the leading cause of gynecologic cancer deaths among American women.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 2. Only 24 percent of ovarian cancers are diagnosed at an early stage, when the cancer is confined to the ovary. Most cases are diagnosed after the cancer has spread to other parts of the body, making it difficult to treat successfully.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 3. One woman out of every 55 (approximately 1.8 percent) will develop ovarian cancer at some point in her lifetime.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 4. Ovarian cancer is most common in women who have already gone through menopause. The average age for developing ovarian cancer is 61 years old.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 5. For the small number of women who are fortunate enough to have their cancer diagnosed before it has spread beyond the ovary, the chance for recovery is 85 to 90 percent. (A fact not lost on me)
Ovarian Cancer Fact 6. For the majority of women in whom the disease has spread beyond the ovary, the chance of living for five years after the diagnosis is 20 to 25 percent.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 7. A major risk factor for getting ovarian cancer is a personal history of breast, endometrial or colon cancer.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 8. The only sure way to diagnose ovarian cancer is through microscopic examination of abnormal fluid or tissue, obtained by needle aspiration (withdrawal of fluid or tissue from a suspicious area though a special, wide needle) or surgery.
Ovarian Cancer Fact 9. Hycamtin is one of the first of a new kind of anti-cancer drugs that kills cancer cells by inhibiting an enzyme essential to the replication of human DNA.
Give yourself a birthday present too and make your annual well woman appointment today.
If symptoms are present, they may include:
PARMESAN MUSHROOM CHICKEN
4 thin skinless, boneless chicken steaks
seasoned flour (I use Wondra with salt & pepper)
1/4 cup buttermilk
2 tablespoons butter
2 tablespoons olive oil
2 cups sliced mushrooms
1/2 teaspoon fresh thyme
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 cup white wine
1/2 cup heavy cream
1/2 cup Asiago Parmesan