THE NEW AND IMPROVED BUCKET LIST

PLANS FOR THIS WEEK…  NOT MANY!

YOU SEE,

TODAY I AM CELEBRATING LIFE.

2+ years ago, 12-29-10, my life changed forever with an ovarian cancer diagnosis followed by MAJOR surgery and recovery. Then came another surgery for a subsequent problem. Now there is another and bigger medical issue, but I’m coping.

What I am also doing is making a BUCKET LIST.  No, not because I’m dying, but because I’m living. I’m doing well considering and I’m recovering. Miracles DO happen.

There are so many things I want to do before I do die, but there never seems to be enough time, money or energy so I’m making a list as I go and changing that.  I’m fortunate that I have already done so many things, but there are so many more yet to do!  I no longer stress out over the small things and they were right, they are all small things! 

  • #  1 – eat a hangover burger – 12-28-11
  • #  2 – go to a PRO football game
  • #  3 – go to a PRO hockey game
  • #  4 – finish my novels
  • #  5 – finish my cookbooks
  • #  6 – get published
  • #  7 – Go to Vermont/New England and see the changing colors in the fall
  • #  8 – Go to Disneyworld/Epcot Center
  • #  9 – Go to an Olympics
  • #10 – Get a postcard series of pictures published
  • #11 – Go white water rafting
  • #12 – Go Deep Sea Fishing (if only for the pictures)
  • #13 – Design and publish a quilt pattern
  • #14 – Travel 1st Class
  • #15 – Take a Mississippi River Steamboat Cruise
  • #16 – Take a River cruise
  • #17 – Say what I mean in a nice way and quit sugarcoating it when the person needs to hear the truth.
  • #18 – Forgive ex, but follow through with WHATEVER it takes to finally get settlement even if it means being ruthless since he was the master manipulator and I was the naive laid back one.
  • #19 – Appreciate each moment and stop letting fear immobilize me…
  • #20 – Be kinder…gentler…more sensitive to others… Realize we are all dealing with difficulty…
  • #21 – Breath more…Talk less…Listen…
  • #22 – PURGE “items” from my life so my loved ones don’t have to do it later.

Every time I update this list I will change to the current date to show my progress.

LAW OF THE GARBAGE TRUCK

 
This is an email that came across my desk again today and I know I’ve shared it before,
but I thought the analogy was so well spelled out that I’d like to pass it on again.
One day I hopped into a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. I mean he was really friendly. So I asked, “Why did you just do that? That guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!”
This is when my taxi driver taught me what I call, “The Law of the Garbage Truck.” He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you.
Don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so….. “Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don’t.”
Remember – Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you!

 Revival of Common Courtesy
“The cardinal principle of etiquette is thoughtfulness, and the guiding rule of thoughtfulness is the Golden Rule. If you always do unto others as you would have done unto you, it is likely that you will never offend, bore or intrude, and that your actions will be courteous and indeed thoughtful.” ~Emily Post

“Parents who insist that their children practice courtesy and good habits at home are doing them a great service, for these habits then become lifelong and the natural way to do things.  It is then unlikely that they will ever embarrass themselves socially or in business, for their unconscious actions will reflect a well mannered person.” ~Emily Post

Need I say more? Evidently yes based on what I see in everyday life. Just this past weekend, I observed at least a dozen occasions where this was NOT being practiced. When I was young I was taught to say please, thank you, I’m sorry, excuse me and a variety of other niceties that tend to make life more pleasant as well as show respect for my elders.
Though the reasons for many things have changed, the act of doing them has not. For example, in Victorian days a man escorting a woman on the street would walk on the street or curb side of the woman to keep her from being splashed by mud. These days, a man still does it, but now more for safety.
Social amenities are still in fashion despite women not being the frail creatures once thought. I know feminists everywhere will hate me, but I LIKE when my husband opens the door for me, stands when I leave the table at a nice restaurant, takes his hat off indoors or walks on the street side. After all these years we have developed an instinct for being courteous to each other.
As a society we have wandered away from many day to day courtesies. We as parents have the responsibility to create the adults of tomorrow and that training begins at home.  That is pure fact.  I recently overheard a couple of moms out having lunch complaining about how their kids were not learning manners at school or in daycare.  HELLO?  Once again many feminists world wide will be upset with me, but I truly blame some of this on the parents.  It is not up to the schools or daycare to teach the children manners.  My highest respect is for the stay at home moms as they have the hardest job in the world.  Many common courtesies are no longer practiced by many families and/or enforced by parents, but that stay at home mom is going to expect certain levels of courtesy and be available to see the beginning of bad habits forming.
One of the examples of the need for everyday manners is on public transportation.  Awhile back I was on a subway when a young mother carrying a baby got on as did an elderly gentleman with a cane.  The car was full and not one man or teenager got up and offered their seat to either of them.  I was embarrassed for us as a society!

There are some personal habits that should be addressed, but based on today’s casual acceptance I will only mention and then leave the interpretation to the reader: men removing hats indoors, slouching/posture in general, elbows on the table while eating,  chewing with your mouth closed,  belching/burping in public,  women in dresses sitting in a ladylike manner,  disposing of your gum appropriately,  smoking in public,  being a good neighbor,  personal  space/crowding and the list goes on and on.

I have seen many well behaved children and truly appreciate the effort their parents put into their training. I just get so disappointed that so many other parents are readily allowing less than acceptable in their lives as well as their children’s. The ME generation does NOT have to be here to stay.  Hubby and I went out for a nice leisurely afternoon lunch today at a little restaurant we like to frequent.  It is very quaint and scenic.  Halfway through our lunch a young family came in (the kids were about 2 and 5).  Mom and dad sat at the bar and ordered a drink leaving the kids to wander.  HELLO??  The 2 year old wanted something the 5 year old had and when she didn’t get it started a tantrum that the parents were ignoring and the rest of us were enduring.  NO ONE said anything!  I was beside myself.  Normally I would have been pissed, but not said anything.  Today was not normal – I had a splitting headache and was just beginning to relax when this all occurred.  I calmly walked over to the parents and asked if they wouldn’t mind taking the little girl outside to calm her down.  They were quite insulted by MY nerve as they put it.  I told them I was insulted by their nerve.  They were clueless!!  I actually had to spell it out for them that while everyone was trying to endure their little girl’s tantrum, it was not our responsibility to do so.  We were all out spending our hard earned money on a relaxing day which did not include providing daycare for them as their children ran around unsupervised.
While there are even more situations we could address because our entire life is full of them (strangers, prejudice, those with handicaps, unexpected visitors, hospitals, church services, etc… the ultimate rule of thumb is and always will be the Golden Rule for ALL situations.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

A SWEET LESSON ON PATIENCE

I FOUND THIS ON MY FRIEND’S FB PAGE AND KNEW INSTANTLY THAT I NEEDED TO SHARE IT.
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90’s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940’s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her.. ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.’

‘Oh, you’re such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’

‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly..

‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice. ‘The doctor says I don’t have very long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, ‘I’m tired.Let’s go now’. We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

‘How much do I owe you?’ She asked, reaching into her purse.

‘Nothing,’ I said

‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.

‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said. ‘Thank you.’

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life…

I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day,I could hardly talk.What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.

But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

FLASHBACK FRIDAY

I am playing along with Martha at Seaside Simplicity with the meme Flashback Friday.   Come join in on the fun and link up your photo.

Every family has their black sheep.  I’d like to say it’s my crazy aunt Ginger, but the fact is, she’s just crazy.  Now in her 70’s, but acts like a kid and not always a in a good way.  When I say she’s crazy, I mean in an oddball way.

When she came to my dad’s funeral (her big brother) in 1993 she took tons of pictures and mailed them out to family.  No, she didn’t take pictures of the family and friends that gathered to mourn his passing.  She took all sorts of pictures of him in his casket and then sent them to us.  As we approach the 20th anniversary of his death, the thing I always remember is crazy aunt Ginger – eccentric and odd forever!

Crazy Aunt Ginger
CIRCA 1981

THURSDAY 13 ~ FUN THOUGHTS

Thursday Thirteen

I know everybody and their brother got this email, but it was too fun to pass up for a Thursday 13.
  1. I think part of a best friend’s job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.
  2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you’re wrong.
  3. I totally take back all those times I didn’t want to nap when I was younger.
  4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.
  5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?
  6. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on #5. I’m pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
  7. I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t at least kind of tired.
  8. Bad decisions make good stories.
  9. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren’t going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.
  10. I’m always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes – to my ten-page research paper that I swear I did not make any changes to.
  11. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Damn it!),but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voicemail. What’d you do after I didn’t answer? Drop the phone and run away?
  12. I keep some people’s phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.
  13. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet, on any given Friday or Saturday night, more kisses begin with Bud Light than with a Kay jewelry product.

PAN SEARED CHICKEN with BROWNED PARSLEY BUTTER

PAN SEARED CHICKEN with BROWNED PARSLEY BUTTER

4 skinless, boneless chicken breasts

flour for dredging

4 tablespoons butter

1 large green onion, sliced thin

salt, pepper and paprika to taste

1/4 cup chopped fresh flat leaf parsley

Juice of 1 lemon

Juice of 1 lime

  • Place chicken between the folds of a clean cheesecloth towel.
  • Pound chicken breasts to 1/4 inch thick.
  • Cut each breast in half.
  • Generously season both sides of chicken breasts.
  • Dredge chicken in flour.
  • In a large skillet melt butter over medium high heat.
  • When butter is sizzling, but not browning, add onions and chicken pieces.
  • Generously season AGAIN!
  • Cook chicken 4-5 minutes on each side.
  • Plate chicken and keep warm.
  • Add parsley, lemon and lime juices, cooking until browned.
  • Pour over chicken pieces.
  • Garnish with parsely.

Tasty Tuesday is hosted by Jen over at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam.

Tempt my Tummy Tuesday hosted by Lisa at Blessed with Grace.

Cooking Thursday is hosted by Sandra over at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom.

Weekend Cooking Creations is hosted by Jennifer.

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POP TART BISCUITS

Pop tartsPASTRY

2 cups flour

1 tablespoon sugar
1 teaspoon sea salt
2 sticks unsalted butter, cold and cubed
1 egg + 1 egg beaten for brushing
2 tablespoons milk

  • Whisk together the flour, sugar and salt.
  • Work in the cold cubes of butter with your fingers until the dough is the size of peas and holds together when you squeeze it.
  • Whisk together the egg and milk until well blended.
  • Add to dough.
  • Mix together until everything is evenly moistened.
  • Knead on a floured surface until dough comes together evenly.

FILLING
1/2 cup brown sugar
1 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
4 teaspoons flour
2 tablespoons butter, melted
cinnamon sugar

Whisk together the brown sugar, cinnamon and flour. Set aside.

  • Divide the dough in half.*
  • Roll out first half of dough.
  • You can either cut it into rectangles or use a biscuit cutter for uniform size.
  • Place each piece on a parchment paper lined cookie sheet.
  • Brush each piece with beaten egg.
  • Add 1 tablespoon of filling in the center of each piece.
  • Roll out second ball of dough and cut “tops” for each tart.
  • Crimp the edges of each tart.
  • Prick the tops of each tart with a fork to allow steam to escape.
  • Refrigerate the pan for 30 minutes.
  • Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
  • Remove the pan from the oven.
  • Brush tops with melted butter.
  • Sprinkle with cinnamon sugar.
  • Bake 25-30 minutes, until lightly browned.
  • Cool before serving.

*Dough can be wrapped in plastic and refrigerated for a few days. If you do refrigerate it, bring it to room temperature before rolling out.

Tasty Tuesday is hosted by Jen over at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam.

Tempt my Tummy Tuesday hosted by Lisa at Blessed with Grace.

Cooking Thursday is hosted by Sandra over at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom.

Weekend Cooking Creations is hosted by Jennifer.

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SKIPPER CHIPPERS aka PEANUT BUTTER OATMEAL RAISIN CHOCOLATE CHIP WALNUT COOKIES with a hint of MAPLE

I have been going through tons and tons of recipes weeding out those that really needed thrown out and those that I still want to make one day. I’ve scanned in the ones I want to keep and tossed a ton too. Along the way I found 11 various recipes for oatmeal cookies. I love my oatmeal raisin cookies, but there was something about each of the other 11 recipes I’d saved that made them special. So instead of trying all 11 recipes I made my own with all the ingredients that drew me to the recipes to begin with. And you know what? According to hubby these are the best cookies ever. I have to agree – the were crunchy and chewy at the same time and every bite was mmmm mmmm good! Hubs was eating the dough straight and even saved some to make a special peanut butter sandwich tomorrow.

Skipper ChippersSKIPPER CHIPPERS

1 cup butter, softened

3/4 cup sugar

3/4 cup packed brown sugar

2 JUMBO eggs

1 cup peanut butter

1 1/4 cup flour

1 teaspoon sea salt

1 teaspoon baking soda

2 cups old fashioned oatmeal

1 cup semi sweet chocolate chips, chopped fine

1/2 cup walnuts, chopped fine

1 cup golden raisins

1 teaspoon maple extract

  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
  • Sift together the flour, salt and baking soda. Set aside.
  • Cream together the butter and sugar.
  • Add the maple extract.
  • Add eggs one at a time, blending well.
  • Add peanut butter. blending well again.
  • Add flour mixture gradually until smooth and well blended.
  • Add oatmeal 1/2 cup at a time until well blended.
  • Add the walnuts, mixing well.
  • Add the chocolate chips, mixing well.
  • Fold in raisins.
  • Drop by spoon fulls onto parchment lined cookie sheet.
  • Bake 8-10 minutes.
  • Let set 2 minutes.
  • Cool on wire racks.
  • Store in tupperware.

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Tasty Tuesday is hosted by Jen over at Balancing Beauty and Bedlam.

Tempt my Tummy Tuesday hosted by Lisa at Blessed with Grace.

Cooking Thursday is hosted by Sandra over at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom.

Weekend Cooking Creations is hosted by Jennifer.

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