The Revival of Common Courtesy ~ 3rd Edition {3} ~ RSVP

Acceptance of a social invitation is not a legal obligation;
your RSVP just communicates your best intentions to attend.

More and more often I have heard that hosts/hostesses are not receiving firm indications of whether guests plan to attend their parties, even when R.S.V.P. is boldly printed on their invitations. This leaves us with a couple of choices. First it could mean that rudeness is a increasingly growing trend in our society or that people no longer understand what the term R.S.V.P. actually means. I prefer to think positively and assume that ignorance of the term is the case versus rudeness. I know it’s hard to believe ignorance to be good, but better that than rudeness!

R.S.V.P is French for “répondez s’il vous plaît” and is an acronym that loosely translates to Please Reply (one way or the other)! Check your calendar and ask yourself how you truly feel about attending this event. Don’t keep your host in suspense, reply as soon as you are sure one way or another. To be proper, you should reply in writing, by hand. But you may reply in the same format that one was invited; for example, an email invitation can be answered by email, etc… R.S.V.P.’s can sometimes be oral or written, but are always determined and based on the level of formality of the invitation. You wouldn’t just pick up the phone to reply to an invitation from the White House or the Pope now would you? These situations and many others require a written response.


Filling out an RSVP card is a basic and important courtesy. The hostess collect R.S.V.P. cards so that they know how many guests to expect, which will help them to make seating and catering arrangements. Your hostess needs to know how many are coming in order to prepare for the event properly. R.S.V.P.’s are the most important determining factor to help her do that well.

You never need to give a reason for not attending. Just let the host know whether you’re currently planning to be there or not.

Communicate last minute changes immediately to your host.
Maybe you become ill or there was an emergency. As soon as you know, you must get in touch with the host (by telephone is fine) to let them know you can’t come, and apologize.

Do you remember to communicate your intentions clearly to your hostess?

Next: How to Write a perfect Thank you note & knowing when to do so
Future themes are:

August 26th ~ Everyday Manners
September 2nd ~ Mealtime Manners
September 9th ~ Interrelationships Manners
September 16th ~ Professional Manners
September 23rd ~ Travel & Tipping
September 30th ~ Table Settings
October 7th ~ Babies
October 14th ~ Engagements & Weddings
October 21st ~ Deaths & Funerals

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Fun Trivia ~ 500 year old facts ~ the 1500's

A friend just sent me an email with these facts and I thought they were interesting enough to pass along. Enjoy them.

The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn’t just how you like it, think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about the 1500s:

Most people got married in June because they took their yearly bath in May, and still smelled pretty good by June. However, they were starting to smell, so brides carried a bouquet of flowers to hide the body odor. Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting married.

Baths consisted of a big tub filled with hot water. The man of the house had the privilege of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the children. Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty you could actually lose someone in it. Hence the saying, Don’t throw the baby out with the Bath water..

Houses had thatched roofs-thick straw-piled high, with no wood underneath. It was the only place for animals to get warm, so all the cats and other small animals (mice, bugs) lived in the roof When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof. Hence the saying . It’s raining cats and dogs.

There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house… This posed a real problem in the bedroom where bugs and other droppings could mess up your nice clean bed. Hence, a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection. That’s how canopy beds came into existence.

The floor was dirt. Only the wealthy had something other than dirt. Hence the saying, Dirt poor. The wealthy had slate floors that would get slippery in the winter when wet, so they spread thresh (straw) on floor to help keep their footing. As the winter wore on, they added more thresh until, when you opened the door, it would all start slipping outside. A piece of wood was placed in the entranceway. Hence the saying a thresh hold.

(Getting quite an education, aren’t you?)

In those old days, they cooked in the kitchen with a big kettle that always hung over the fire. Every day they lit the fire and added things to the pot. They ate mostly vegetables and did not get much meat. They would eat the stew for dinner, leaving leftovers in the pot to get cold overnight and then start over the next day. Sometimes stew had food in it that had been there for quite a while. Hence the rhyme, Peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas porridge in the pot nine days old..

Sometimes they could obtain pork, which made them feel quite special. When visitors came over, they would hang up their bacon to show off. It was a sign of wealth that a man could, bring home the bacon. They would cut off a little to share with guests and would all sit around and chew the fat..

Those with money had plates made of pewter. Food with high acid content caused some of the lead to leach onto the food, causing lead poisoning death. This happened most often with tomatoes, so for the next 400 years or so, tomatoes were considered poisonous.

Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got the middle, and guests got the top, or the upper crust.

Lead cups were used to drink ale or whisky. The combination would sometimes knock the imbibers out for a couple of days. Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would gather around and eat and drink and wait and see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.

England is old and small and the local folks started running out of places to bury people. So they would dig up coffins and would take the bones to a bone-house, and reuse the grave. When reopening these coffins, 1 out of 25 coffins were found to have scratch marks on the inside and they realized they had been burying people alive. So they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin and up through the ground and tie it to a bell. Someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the graveyard shift.) to listen for the bell; thus, someone could be, saved by the bell or was considered a ..dead ringer..

And that’s the truth…Now, whoever said History was boring ! ! !
Educate someone. Share these facts with a friend.

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Menu Plan Monday

MONDAY ~ Jambalaya & Salad
TUESDAY ~ Crispy Cheesy Chicken Nuggets & Salad
WEDNESDAY ~ Chicken Pie
THURSDAY ~ Meatloaf Muffins & Salad
FRIDAY ~ Pork Chops & Home Made Apple sauce
SATURDAY ~ Seafood Salad & Parmesan rolls
SUNDAY ~ Lemon Lime Pepper Chicken & Salad

I do the memes: Menu Plan Monday hosted by Laura at I’m an Organizing Junkie, Favorite Ingredient Friday hosted by Kathryn at Overwhelmed with Joy, Freezer Food Friday hosted by MJ at mjpuzzlemom, Scrumptious Sunday hosted by Meredith at Mercedes Rocks, Tasty Thursday hosted by Pumpkin Patch, Watchin’ What We Eat Wednesday hosted by Lorie at Honey I Shrank Myself and Slow Cooking Thursday hosted by Sandra at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom. Doing them all make great additions to help keeping me on track and finding so new recipes!

Favorite Ingredient Friday ~ Bread Pudding


hosted by Overwhelmed with Joy

BREAD PUDDING
2 cups whole milk
½ cup softened butter
4 eggs, beaten
2 tablespoons cinnamon
1 cup sugar
1 cup brown sugar, packed
1 15¼ ounce can crushed pineapple, drained well
½ cup golden rum soaked raisins*
1 cup milk chocolate chips
⅓ cup slivered almonds
8 slices bread, cubed and staled

Preheat oven to 325°. Cream butter, sugars and cinnamon until fluffy. Add eggs one at a time and beat on high until well blended. Fold in pineapple and raisins*, chocolate chips and nuts. Fold in bread last. Pour into a greased casserole. Bake 40-45 minutes until top is crusty.

*1 hour before preparing pour rum over raisins and leave to soak. Just before adding to mixture, drain off excess rum.

I do the memes: Menu Plan Monday hosted by Laura at I’m an Organizing Junkie, Favorite Ingredient Friday hosted by Kathryn at Overwhelmed with Joy, Freezer Food Friday hosted by MJ at mjpuzzlemom, Scrumptious Sunday hosted by Meredith at Mercedes Rocks, Tasty Thursday hosted by Pumpkin Patch, Watchin’ What We Eat hosted by Lorie at Honey I Shrank Myself and Slow Cooking Thursday hosted by Sandra at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom. Doing them all make great additions to help keeping me on track and finding so new recipes!


Tasty Thursday ~ Jambalaya

JAMBALAYA
3 tablespoons olive oil
1 large bunch green onions, diced
3 teaspoons minced garlic, jar
2 cups diced cooked ham
1/2 cup white wine
1 cup chicken stock
1 teaspoon dried thyme
1 teaspoon dried basil
1 teaspoon paprika
1 teaspoon sea salt
1 teaspoon white pepper
1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
3/4 cup long grain rice

  • Heat the oil in a dutch oven. Add the green onions and garlic and sauté until fragrant and tender.
  • Mix in remaining ingredients except for the rice and bring to a boil.
  • Add rice and reduce the heat. Simmer until rice is tender and the liquid has been absorbed, about 25 minutes.
I do the memes: Menu Plan Monday hosted by Laura at I’m an Organizing Junkie, Favorite Ingredient Friday hosted by Kathryn at Overwhelmed with Joy, Freezer Food Friday hosted by MJ at mjpuzzlemom, Scrumptious Sunday hosted by Meredith at Mercedes Rocks, Tasty Thursday hosted by Pumpkin Patch, Watchin’ What We Eat hosted by Lorie at Honey I Shrank Myself and Slow Cooking Thursday hosted by Sandra at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom. Doing them all make great additions to help keeping me on track and finding so new recipes!

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Watchin' What We Eat Wednesday ~ Cheesy Crispy Chicken Nuggets


Cheesy Crispy Chicken Nuggets
1 large chicken breast
1/4 cup grated Parmesan Cheese
2 tablespoons bread crumbs
1/4 teaspoon white pepper

  • Preheat oven to 400 degrees.
  • Combine cheese, bread crumbs and pepper in a ziploc bag and mix well.
  • Cut chicken breast into bite sized pieces.
  • Add several chicken pieces to ziploc bag and coat chicken pieces well.
  • Arrange pieces on non-stick or PURE sprayed cooking sheet.
  • Bake 20-25 minutes until chicken cooked through.

1 weight watcher’s point each nugget

PINEAPPLE ANGEL FOOD CAKE
this recipe is here.

I do the memes: Menu Plan Monday hosted by Laura at I’m an Organizing Junkie, Favorite Ingredient Friday hosted by Kathryn at Overwhelmed with Joy, Scrumptious Sunday hosted by Meredith at Mercedes Rocks, Tasty Thursday hosted by Pumpkin Patch, Watchin’ What We Eat hosted by Lorie at Honey I Shrank Myself and Slow Cooking Thursday hosted by Sandra at Diary of a Stay at Home Mom. Doing them all make great additions to help keeping me on track and finding so new recipes!

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Hump Day Humor ~ Heaven or Hell


Hosted by Mercedes Rocks

An old lady dies and goes to heaven. She’s chatting with St. Peter at the Pearly Gates when all of a sudden she hears the most awful, blood curdling screams.

“Don’t worry about that”, says St. Peter, “It’s only someone having the holes put into her shoulder blades for the wings”.

The old lady looks a little uncomfortable but carries on with the conversation. Ten minutes later, there are more blood curdling screams. ‘Oh my God,’ says the old lady, ‘now what is happening?’

‘Not to worry,’ says St. Peter, ‘She’s just having her head drilled to fit the halo.’

‘I can’t do this,’ says the old lady, ‘I’m going to hell.’

‘You can’t go there,’ says St. Peter. ‘You’ll be raped and taken advantage of.’

‘Maybe so, says the old lady, but I’ve already got the holes for that!

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There's a new meme in town ~ The Revival of Common Courtesy ~ Second Edition {2} ~ Being the Perfect Guest

“Courtesy demands that you, when you are a guest,
shall show neither annoyance nor disappoint no matter what…”
~Emily Post

No matter what the event is or how well the hostess has planned and prepared, success depends on enthusiastic, congenial and considerate guests.

A welcome house guest above all is ADAPTABLE. Be ready for anything or nothing at all.

As a guest it is not necessary to ever eat anything that goes against your morals or that you are allergic to. Proper etiquette says to NOT mention these in advance to your hostess so she doesn’t feel obligated to change her menu. It is pretty hard to plan around everyone’s likes and dislikes. Just avoid the items you cannot eat or choose not to. If necessary have a snack before arriving. If you know that you will not be able to eat anything being served you might discuss it with your hostess so she knows that you will be bringing a meal for yourself prepared according to your restrictions. A classic example of this would be an Orthodox Jew who requires a kosher meal. For family and close friends this can be more lenient. I know that when I first met my husband’s family I would never have dreamed of mentioning my food allergy to anyone in advance for fear of making extra work for them. After the first time I avoided a certain food because of an ingredient in it, my sister-in-law noticed and over the years has begun to even read labels on foods before I visit so we can avoid a problem in the future. That’s because she’s a good hostess!

You may want to help your hostess, but avoid the temptation to chase her into the kitchen trying to help and then end up chattering away while she’s trying to make her last minute preparations. Take your cue from the hostess. If you have offered to help and she has declined your help, don’t insist. She evidently has a plan. She will always appreciate your offer though.

Conform to the habits of your hostess. If they are early risers, while you are their guest so should you be within reason. There is the chance that you are an early riser or unable to sleep in the late evening. Take a book with you to while away the time when perhaps your are awake and they are not. If you read one of your hostesses books during your visit, do not dog ear the pages and return it to its proper place before departing.

Never stay longer than originally planned. End you visit while you and your hostess are both having a good time.

Leave your room and bath as you found it. My sister-in-law says “Do NOT try to do something nice by stripping the bed for your hostess”. She may not be prepared to do the laundry that day and would prefer to do these tasks on her own time line. But Emily post suggests you ask the hostess first and at the very least remove the sheets and fold them at the foot of the bed after pulling the spread into place to make the bed appear made so the hostess does not forget to change them. Use your best judgment based on your relationship with your hostess.

Don’t forget your “bread and butter” gift for your hostess. My sister-in-law is the one person we stay with regularly. As close family, etiquette sometimes disappears depending on who all is involved, but I never ever forget to bring a bread and butter gift for her, a small token of my appreciation picked out just for her. It can be as simple as a bouquet of flowers or a box of candy, but should be something she will personally love.

Follow up your visit with a thank you note within a day or two.

What do you do special for your hostess?


Next week we will cover,
The Art of an R.S.V.P.
Future themes:
August 19th ~ How to Write a perfect Thank you note & knowing when to do so
August 26th ~ Everyday Manners
September 2nd ~ Mealtime Manners
September 9th ~ Interrelationships Manners
September 16th ~ Professional Manners
September 23rd ~ Travel & Tipping
September 30th ~ Table Settings
October 7th ~ Babies
October 14th ~ Engagements & Weddings
October 21st ~ Deaths & Funerals

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Win a Fabulous Vintage Apron from the Apron Queen!

Meredith over at Mercedes Rules is hosting the giveaway for Vintage Aprons at Rick Rack Attack. How would you like to win a fabulous vintage apron from The Apron Queen over at Rick Rack Attack? You even get to choose your prize! You don’t have to have a blog to win. The Apron Queen will be giving the winner her choice of a Vintage Apron from her shop. You have TWO chances to win. All you have to do to is to go over to her shop at Rick Rack Attack, and choose which of her many aprons is your favorite. Then leave a comment here (including a link to your favorite vintage apron) to enter the giveaway. You may also enter by posting about this giveaway (including a link to this post) on your own blog, and leaving a second comment with the link to your post. Good Luck!! Deadline to enter is Friday August 8th at 11:59pm CST. Winner will be drawn at random and announced on Monday, August 11th.

THE RULES:

  • You must be 18 or older to enter (void where prohibited)
  • This contest is only open to residents of the U.S.
  • ONE chance: leave a comment HERE including the link to the apron of your choice
  • SECOND chance: post about this post on your blog (including a link to this post) and leave a comment HERE with the link to your post
  • If you are a non-blogger, please make sure you include your email address so you can be contacted.

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